I wanna go back to the generation when a guy had to get permission from the girl’s parents to ask her out. I wanna go back to the generation where a guy would physically call her and talk to her, not text. I wanna go back to the generation where your first kiss would be with someone you’ve been dating for months, not hookup with a guy you meet in a club. I wanna go back to the generation where a guy would give you his varsity jacket. I wanna go back to the generation where a girl can get any guy just by wearing a t-shirt, jeans, and a pair of sneakers. I wanna go back to the generation where the guy wanted the girl, not always just the sex. I wanna go back to the generation where couples slow danced, not grind. I wanna go back to the generation where love actually made sense.

>”the generation where a girl can get any guy just by wearing a t-shirt, jeans, and a pair of sneakers”

>”[nostalgia for outdated romantic customs that supposedly enhance/validate love]”

>”[assumptions]”

>”the generation where love actually made sense”

Because everyone knows love only makes sense when it’s a load of romanticized, shallow, assumptive bullshit.

You are in control of yourself. You can choose to grind or not to grind, to hook up or not to hook up. You can choose to act instead of complaining/wondering, to communicate instead of expecting. You can’t control others, but you can control yourself, at least to a large extent. If you want to talk to your boyfriend in person, do so. If you like particular romantic gestures, say so. If you want to be valued for more than just sex, make yourself valuable for more than just sex. Think, read, laugh, create, explore, learn. Expend your energy in efforts completely unrelated to being socially successful/looking cool/etc. You are what you choose to be.

I want to create a future where people’s conceptions of love/value/relationships are richer and deeper than this.